Friday, June 6, 2008


We had our 2nd peace council last Sunday. The other one (see May 28 in archive) went so well that I decided to keep that hot/cold theme up. I drew a thermometer and called it the Cleavermeter (I'd post the picture but it was just pencil on a white paper--nothing special.) We talked about what kind of warm (positive) things we can do to move the temperature up in our home. The kids had great ideas like:

encouraging instead of bossing
giving compliments
saying "sure" when mom asks you to do something
patting people on the back or giving fives instead of pestering saying nice things even if someone says or does something mean to you
Jordan (always the thinker) said, "well, we don't want it to get too hot in the house." On the contrary we want it as warm as possible--boiling even.

We talked about things that might make the temperature really cold. They decided they would shiver at each other if one's behavior was getting a little too cold. So far its worked pretty well. Alex, after cleaning his room without being asked, (totally out of character) said yesterday, "Mom, I'm way, way up." Yep, he was pretty high on the Cleavernmeter. They really have been nicer to each other since the institution of the Cleavermeter. Its also been nice for me to ask myself, "how high am I on the Cleavermeter."

These kinds of good moments don't happen at our house all that often but its so nice to see these guys excited about something new.

Just to clarify: I'm not much like June Cleaver but I would really like to be good about making our home a happy environment where everyone wants to be more than anywhere else. I love the thought of being on top of housework and looking my best all the time. Every once in a while I have a good idea about something and so those are the things I will be posting but other than that I'm just a plain old, scatter-brained girl that makes mistakes left and right. I just hope people who don't really know me very well and are reading this don't think that I have it all together. I'm just normal wanting to be better.


Trueman twins said...

We are definitely instituting the "Truemanmeter" in our home. After yesterday's blog you know why! Thanks for the great ideas and the positive comments!

Alex looks so much bigger! Where did his blonde hair go? Or is it just darker since it is wet?

Miss you!

katie said...

I think it's great that you are having some success, even if it's not all the time. I don't know what it's like to be a mom, but I think you do better than you think.

Casey said...

Hey June and the Cleavers,
I love visiting your blog for the witty commentary and the interesting ideas about familyhood. Your ideas about jobcharts and family relationships remind me of all the things my mom tried to use on us. Of course, in retrospect, they were great ideas and I'm sure she never thought they would last more than a week or two at the most, it's funny to remember back on the Elmer Family Job Chart which was just a bunch of nickles, dimes, and quarters taped to a board and whenever we completed a job, we got to take one off. That's about the same time that family dishonesty skyrocketed 400%. WEll, regardless, it's still fun to come up with new ideas to keep the kids on their toes.

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Christy said...

We could use a little warming up around here (well not literally, it is a 90 degree week), tonight is FHE though, it sounds like a great plan, thanks for making my life easier. I love this sharing of ideas!

leigh said...

well, I sort of implemented a june cleaver/jamie idea by having fhe yesterday in the car. i'm so bad about doing it, and we were going to be in the car for at least 30 minutes. so instead of turning on the tv we talked about charity and what jesus would do in certain situations. we'll see if they remember it this week.